alright let me put you through a sinereo, you royally pissed of your best friend who've you referred to, on occasion, as your brother/sister to the point where he/she would kill you the next time they saw you in real life. a few months after pissing him/her off you tried to contact you and ask that if there is a slight possibility that in the future you two can rebuild your friendship. he/she gave you that there is a slim chance and that he/she would give you the chance but you'd have to do allot of ass kissing and that there would be certain conditions that would have to be met before that. you reply saying that those conditions are impossible for you to make because its against your code that if you go against your word then you arnt the person you were, while when you pissed him/her off you broke his/her word 3 times. so he/she snapped back with something along the lines of "WELL GO F@#K YOURSELF!!!!".

if you were in that position would you even consider telling your "brother/sister" that he/she is/was a disposable asset and that you would do the stupid thing over again because it was worth loosing every friend you had

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Yes. It would be extremely hard for me to say it to a person I hold dear, but if I make my word a promise, then it would be a betrayal of myself to break it. Staying true to yourself and your ideals comes before everything else, even a "brother/sister".

what happened was he broke three promises in one action without a thought of breaking them and left me to die without a second thought, and in order to make amends he had to break one that he made around what caused him to break the three to me. so he decided to let 3 be broken, instead of breaking one and fixing three

This is my opinion, and may be a tad harsh, so take that as you will:

He wants you to compromise your principles, but (this will sound sexist but anyway) a man who would compromise his principles is not much of a man, but (this is important) a man that knowingly asks another man to compromise his principles is a sorry excuse for a person.

Draco, that's not sexist at all, its true. And it sounds to me that this person doesn't set much store by their word in the first place if they broke a number of promises without a second thought - if that is their excuse for not patching things up, then they should've taken the trouble to find a better one.

what im trying to get at is, if you're trying to make amends for a misdeed you've done and the person is pissed at you because of your misdeed would you tell the person that they dont mean much to you and that if you could go back in time with the same knowledge you have now on how it would have turned out that you wouldnt do anything differently

if that makes any sense to you

It makes sense, and to me it would depend on the person. If they truely don't mean much to you, then don't even bother telling them and just walk away. But if they're a really close friend (or were a really close friend) then I wouldn't tell them and keep trying to find a way to make things up.

yeah this guy i'm talking about, he thought it was ok to steal my fiance (he was the best man), he came crawling back to me wanting to be friends, i told him that there will be no way that we can rebuild our friendship until she was out of his life, and he promised her that he wouldn't leave her... like he left me.

the promises he broke to me were
1) as the best man he was supposed to do whatever it took to make sure we got married and that the marriage was as strong as possible
2) when his fiance left him he promised he could never love anyone else again
3) he promised me that when this was starting that he was doing everything in his power to make my and her relationship as strong as possible

then they fell in love with each other and left me to DIE.

so after he made it so obviously clear that she meant more to him than our friendship ever has i gave him a message that basically told him to go F$#K himself. he got pissy and started talking about his oh so terrible life that he has created for himself when all but my ex and one other friend has left him for what he did to me. i gave him a really long message explaining how he put himself in that position and how i warned him that his decision would ruin his life...

he replied to that with telling me how i was a disposable asset and that he wouldn't change a thing if he had a chance to do it all over again

and so this topic is basically me ranting how this is pissing me off because as a friend i went above and beyond for him and how easily he threw me aside and hasnt learned a thing from it

alright now i dont know where he is comming from... he just sent me a long message apologising for what he has done and contradicting himself

"Why would I make that choice again? Because I'm stupid and fell so completely in love that I gave away part of my soul without even noticing I did. If I could go back and not hurt you and everyone else in the process, believe me, I would."